In most conversations with teens, especially in teaching situations (such as Sabbath School lesson study), the rule is that discussion is better than lecture. Discussion helps you hear the concerns of the person or group with whom you’re talking. And discussion helps keep the subject focused, encouraging you to speak to real needs.
The Three Best Ways to Kill a Discussion
- Lecture for twenty minutes, then ask the kids, “Now, do you have any questions?”
- Look for one, and only one, right answer - “What one word best describes the character of God?’ “Gracious.” “No.” “Righteous.” “NO.” “Merciful.” “NO!!” “Love.” “That’s it!”
- Belittle an answer you don’t agree with - "Who's your favorite Bible character?" “Joseph.” “Oh, come on, you’ve been saying, ‘Joseph’ ever since you were a little kid. Why don’t you grow up and choose a better character?”
The Three Best Ways to get a Discussion Going
- Begin with a question. Don’t wait for someone to ask. Make the question easy to answer. Appreciate the answer you receive.
- Ask questions to specific people. Don’t expect volunteers.
- Divide your youth into small groups. Give an assignment that can be worked on together. Appoint a spokesperson for each group. (“The person with the longest hair will be the spokesperson this time.”) Establish a time limit and hold to it (three minutes or five minutes, depending on the assignment). Pay attention to the answers.
From: ABZ’s of Adventist Youth Ministry
Permission to copy for use in the local congregation or group.
